Today it snowed, although we lacked the great blizzard of 2010 we were promised it did flurry, and make all things rather pretty. While the snow was coming down and I was working I had sometime to contemplate what is it that makes life change lasting.
I have watched people in my life make changes only to have them go back to their old ways in anywhere from 6 weeks to 6 months. Why?
I began to think that it must come down to our motivation to change. When we are scared into change it lasts only as long as the threat is there. Once the threat is gone then it takes an even bigger threat to prompt the change again.
Sometimes we are motivated by what we see on the outside, and then the change will last until what we see is more pleasant to the eye.
Change can also be motivated by others. As long as they are there prompting us to change to stick with it we do. But we are so needy of the others to keep the change going.
Finally change happens and sticks I think, when we are doing it for ourselves to feel more whole. This place may take a long time to get to. Some will call it hitting rock bottom, some will call it having an enlightened moment. It is the feeling that something really has to change, that the end of the road has arrived.
Today I found out that I think I am on this path. I had the chance to really make some poor choices and have the validated, yet I made the good ones simply because I really want it to be different. I am ready.
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